8 Paths for Good Life

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Genuinely, finding the right and effective paths for the good life is as much hard and difficult as climbing the huge mountain because, there are so many Gurus, mentors, masters, teachers, and writers with bunches of ideas teaching us to do this and that. It is hard to justify who is good and whose ideas are best. But, still, we need to figure out because we don’t born with it. We figure it out.

Here, I am trying to show you what the Buddha teaches about right paths fa or the good life.

1.     Samma Ditthi

Right understanding or right view the is first path. What the Buddha really meant here is seeing the world the way as it is rather than the way you want it to be. The Buddha said “I teach you to experience the reality but not reality itself, just an as finger pointing at the moon is the moon itself. A man who thinks rationally sees the moon but, the man who just look at his finger sees only his finger but not the moon.

These days and ages, people are very similar to this similes. They believe what they see on the surface. They want to be what they see on a surface of KPOPs, super stars, Nicky Minaj, Eminem and Back Street Boys etc. but they never think and see what really going through their life. Whether, they are the way are on a screens. They are sexy, rich and completely accomplish the way the Media expose them.

Asking question is important. Ask a question yourself. Know the reality. See the world and people the way they are rather than accepting and following them. See them rationally. Walk on the paths they walked upon rather trying to look like them.

2.     Samma Sankappa

Right intention is the second path. Second path teaches us to be committed to the certain paths we are walking upon or need to walk. Right understanding teaches the meaning of life and the right intention teaches us to know what you really want in life.

Another words for the right intention is being persistent and passionate about your journey. For instance, before climbing the mountain you have to understand first the lay of the land, pitfalls, the team members and the equipment you need while climbing the mountain. But, just understanding these things is not enough, you need to have persistence, passions and commitment to climb the mountain.

In real life the same. Having degrees and reading bunches of books, doing more researches only is not enough. Knowing the effective ways to apply all those learned thing is important. Otherwise, just like a man who learns Ramayana twelve years but, cannot say who the father of the God Ram is.

3.     Sammavaca

Right speech is third paths. What the Buddha is trying to teach us to be thoughtful on our every spoken words. Speaking and communicating thoughtfully can unite others.

Be kind to others.

4.     Samma Kammanta

Right action teaches us to understand ethical approach in life, to consider others exampling oneself and the world we live in. It also teaches us not to harm other, steal others things, not to lie, to avoid sexual misconducts, not to take drugs and other intoxicative drinks and also respect our private and social lives like business-commitments.

5.     Samma Ajiva

Right livelihood is another important paths that the Buddha had taught us. The Buddha taught us not to deal in harmful drugs and intoxicants, those dealings in weapons and the things which harmful to animals and humans. Being able to do particular works properly, whether it is Buddhist community works, home base work, or the community works.

6.     Samma Vayama

Right effort is another very important paths which mean cultivating an enthusiasm, a positive attitude in a balanced way. In order to create the right efforts, there shouldn’t be thoughts of jealousy and anger. It should be well balanced just like strings on a guitar, not much tense and too impatient. If the strings are unbalanced, then the sounds wouldn’t produce sweet and nice.  

7.     Samma Sati

Right mindfulness. Right mindfulness basically meditative acts which teach us to be aware of the moment and every action you take. “By being aware, we are able to see how old patterns and habits control us. In this awareness, we may see how fears of possible futures limit our present actions.”

Be in a present moment.

8.     Samma Samadhi

Right concentration is the last paths among noble eight paths. Right concentration teaches us to be focused on the things we dream, hope and are ambitious about

      These noble eightfold paths could be very helpful to every person who is willing to do something or looking for a good life.

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You are not a Brahman just because, you born as a Brahman

Buddhi Chaudhary

“न चज्जा वसलो होती न चज्जा होती ब्राह्मनो

कम्मना वसलो होती कम्मानो होती ब्रह्मनो !”

Vasala Sutta, Sayutta Nikaya

The belief that someone can be superior or un-superior just because of his or her birth is one of the oldest belief-system in India (also Nepal) and was existed during the time of the Buddha, as well as these days and ages too.

When we look a bit toward Ancient Histories, it is clear that 3,000 years South Asian Societies was dominated by the aristocratic class and caste systems, bestowing to each person born into the social status that had divided;  Laborers, Merchants, Warriors, and Brahmans. An accordance with the Hindu scriptures, Brahmans – scholars and priests were regarded as the highest castes and viewed morally and spiritually superior to all while other castes regarded as lower castes. Indeed, these groups of people were called “Brahmans” since, according to the Rig Veda, they were born from the mouth of the Brahma himself. Besides, all the other castes; Laborers, Merchants and Warriors had to server these superior and aristocratic people as their servants – sale their goods from one cities to another cities, protect them from outer dangers and clean their residences, wash clothes, toilets etc.

These sorts of practice even today could be seen in Nepalese villages. Currently, me, an author, is working as a teacher in the southern parts of Nepal where there these aristocratic people are governing to those poor and lower castes people as slavers but, deny to pay them back for their works. They even refuse to drink water from these lower castes people’s wells and eat on their plates. But, the funny thing is, these aristocratic people use the water pots, plates, hand carved wooden-spoons for serving rice, knives and axes that those lower castes people make and sale in the market. Once, I heard a Brahman man was saying it is an insult for his status as Brahman to drink water on the well and eat with the owner of the company, while, he works for one of the well-known merchant as a laborer who was born in the lower caste family. Besides these, there are many incidents that are happening due to the caste and class systems which is very disgusting or abhorring facts.

In Vasala Sutta, Sayutta Nikaya, Buddha says ‘By birth a man is not Brahmin or outcaste but, by his deeds,’ the ideas of his radical equality that provoked those above mentioned Aristocratic Brahmins and Superiors who started routinely come to him for arguments and learn the new thoughts.  Late in the Middle Length Discourses, we meet a group of 500 Brahmins who live in the town of Savatthi, where the Buddha is staying at the time. When they hear that the Buddha has been teaching that all the castes are equally “pure,” they are outraged, and decide to send a smart young Brahmin to go and debate him. He disputed all the proud Brahmins with his teachings.

In the following conversation between the Buddha and the proud Brahmin Assalayana (after whom the Assalayana Sutta is named), the Buddha offers some ways to address the obdurate belief in superiority of caste, race, or any other birth group.

Master Gautama, the Brahmins say, ‘Brahmins are the superior caste; any other caste is inferior. Only Brahmins are the fair caste; any other caste is dark. Only Brahmins are pure, not non-Brahmins. Only Brahmins are the sons and offspring of Brahma: born of his mouth, born of Brahma, created by Brahma, heirs of Brahma.’ What does Master Gautama have to say with regard to that?

The Buddha begins to dismantle Assalayana’s notions of superiority by noting that we all enter the world the same way:

But, Assalayana, the Brahmins’ Brahmin-women are plainly seen having their periods, becoming pregnant, giving birth, and nursing [their children]. And yet the Brahmins, being born through the birth canal, say, “Brahmins are the superior caste . . .”

The same thoughts, these aristocratic Brahmins in Nepal – spiritual priests or superiors need to understand that they are not completely pure just by birth but by deeds, while using those paupers who regarded as lower castes-born slavers or laborers and themselves as purely born son of a Brahma.

And, also, these people need to understand it with physical realities to understand it is as difficult to argue that people who give birth same way are fundamentally different. So, it would be clear, whether a person is a Brahmin, a warrior, a merchant, or a laborer, when he does bad things, he has to suffer with bad consequences. And, if he does good things, he has to be rewarded with good consequences. Hence. Good people are good people, and bad people are bad people, no matter what they come from, and all can be expected to suffer the appropriate consequences. Even a Brahmin supremacist has to admit to knowing some Brahmins who are terrible people and some farm laborers who are wise and noble.

When, we consider the physical difference between Brahmin Supremacists and lower-castes-born slavers or laborers. There are nothing much difference between them. They have same color bloods. Both of them poops after eating foods, pee after drinking water and same sorts of physical and mental pains. Likes and dislikes. Hates and loves. Like sweet and nice words to listen. Hate bad people. When, they go to take a bath in the river. They scrub their bodies and rinse with water. When, they gather the logs and kindle the logs with lighter and the smokes make them cough. It is same, isn’t it? Using the same materials and techniques, every human being will produce the same fire; thus notions of caste superiority have no basis whatsoever in the physical nature of the world.

So, why these divisions of class and caste systems? Why do we hate each other, when we are same in all scenarios of life, in physicality and mentality? Answer is within yourself.

Therefore, you can’t say you are a Brahman just because, you born as a Brahman.

Ask yourself. ‘Who you are?’

90 % out of 100%. We like to criticize others. 10% gives a good suggestions and appreciate other’s works

By :- Buddhi Chaudhary 

Appreciating the works and giving a good and possible suggestions to the starters is one of the greatest and easiest deeds a man can do. Even a Buddha did it. When a person couldn’t do meritorious deeds, meditation as well as other ordinary acts properly, he used to suggest him or her with proper methods. ‘Act well. Don’t act badly. Good brings you happiness. Bad brings you only suffering. Here. And, hereafter life.’

If a person act well, he would appreciate their works very much. When, venerable Sariputta would explain the Dhamma properly, he used to appreciate him expressing his feelings in front of the hundreds of monks. Even, he had given the names to all monks an accordance with their acts and skills. If a monk is skillful in preaching, he would name him as a best preacher. If a good explainer, he would name him as best explainer etc.

Modern people and societies are slightly different to the ancient teachings that our forefathers taught and showed us. Now a day, we love to criticize other’s works rather than appreciating or giving possible suggestions. For instance, when you want to read hundred books within a year, everybody will laugh at you rather than encourage. They will criticize, until, you lose the confidence rather than giving easy methods to read book a day. Studies explain that 90 % out of 100%. We like to criticize others. 10% gives good suggestions and appreciate other’s works.

            It is very important to develop the qualities of appreciating other’s works or giving possible-suggestions to the starters. It may be business planner. Hundred books reader. Writer. Runners. YouTubers. Bloggers. Depends on. There are hidden happiness within these sorts of acts.

Learn to appreciate other’s works. Give possible suggestions. Make them a person, they want to be. That will make them happy as well as, you will be happy mentally. ‘I support him so, he is.’ 

They taught us life. Feel them as yourself. Love them truly.

Buddhi Chaudhary

2018 is not just think and imagine but do and die year for me. I want to do. I want to do good and earn good. Yesterday, I and my team went to the orphanage around Kapilwastu. We gave foods to the kids who don’t have parents like, we do, blankets, towels and other necessities.

Most importantly, we shared our love with them by talking, laughing and sharing our happiness that we have. They taught us life that we never had experienced in our life time.

Love the kids. Love the kids truly. They will teach you life the way, they taught us. To me.

I love the kids because, I want to give them a better life that I didn't had , when I was a kid.  

They taught us life. Feel them as yourself. Love them truly. 

Love them first to get loved later

Buddhi Chaudhary

Parents, teachers, masters and relatives doubt in their children, pupils and students whether, they are going to love and support them back, when they grow up. “As you sow, thus as you get.” Same. As much as, you love and support your kids to grow up properly, thus amount of love you will receive from them later on.

Let me exemplifies with a story that will help you to understand how –

There was a kind, compassionate and intelligent monk in ancient China. He understood his pupils very much and provided every necessities, they needed. His pupils also loved him very much.

Being kids. It is normal to have desires to play sports. When the boys outside of the temple ground play basketball, football and volleyball, they would sneak through the hole and look them playing. Some pupils decided to steal from the temple ground and join the boys outside but, other pupils appreciate the honesty as a best policy.

The dishonest pupils jumped the temple and joined the boys to play sports.

The master learned the matters. He also learned that jumping out of the temple wall is difficult task. The pupils might get hurt. So, he decided support them. Every day, before pupils jump out of the temple ground, he would cover his body with blankets and bend by the wall. Pupils would put their one leg on his body and jump out of the wall easily.

Time passed on. Unknowingly, the master became old and feeble bodied. Pupils also grew up stronger and heavier. He couldn’t raise their weights like before. One day, when pupils were jumping the temple wall, he couldn’t control their weights. He fall down on the ground crying loudly. Pupils uncovered him surprisingly. The master told them all the secrets. Pupils felt guilty. They apologized and decided never to be dishonest to their master.

Ever since, they never did any mistakes. They loved their master very much till he passed away happily.

See?

Dear reader.

When you love someone very much, they give you back the same amount of love. Love them first. They will love you back later. 

This story will change your Life, if you read carefully and think analytically

By : - Buddhi Chaudhary

In ancient India, there was smart adviser to a certain king. One day, on his way to the palace, he saw a dead mouse. After staring several minutes at the dead mouse, he whispered slowly “Even from this small dead mouse can be rich man, if a person try hard to sale it in the market.”

A man heard it. Following the advice of king’s an adviser, he grabbed the dead mouse by the tail and took to the market place. A shopkeeper saw it. He said to a man “Can you give me that mouse for my cat. I will give you two copper coins for that mouse.” A man gave the dead mouse to a shop keeper and took the coins on his hand.

With those two copper coins, he bought sweet cakes and water pots. He took all those sweet cakes and water pots by the road. At the same time, there were people coming from far of land to the certain city. There were flowers on their hand but no money. They were feeling very hungry and thirsty too. They needed money to buy sweet cakes and water but were lack of money. They exchanged their flowers with sweet cakes and water pots. He took all the flowers and went to the market place and sold all those flowers with little high prices and bought more sweet cakes and started selling by the road.

At the same time, there were heavy storm and rain. The trees were been broken in the king’s garden. When the ministers were cleaning the garden reluctantly, a man asked a job to clean all those trees and branches. Lazy ministers agreed.

He called some kids to help him. He just gave them some sweet cakes and cleaned all the branches quickly.

When the potter saw woods cleaning by the certain man. He asked the woods with some handsome price. A man sold it.

With these profits, he opened a shop and started selling flowers and woods with good prices.

One day, local grass mowers came to his shop. They were hungry and tired. He gave sweet cakes and water them freely. Surprised to his generosity, they asked what, they can do for it. He said, he want nothing for now. If time comes, he will inform them.

A week later, he head horse dealers were coming to the city to sale the five hundred horses. He asked all those grass mowers bundle of grass and sold all those grasses to the horse men.

Time went on, one day, he heard that some ships coming from foreign countries. He thought it as a good opportunity for the new business plans.

He went to his jeweler friend and bought gold and rubies with low price. He knew that those merchants were coming from the country where golds were expensive and rubies could be hardly found. He gave the gold ring and rubies to the captain of the ships. To earn this commission, the captain agreed to send all his passengers to him as a broker. He would then lead them to the best shops in the city. In turn, the man got the merchants to pay him a commission for sending customers to them.

Acting as a middle man in this way, after several ships came into port, the man became very rich. Being pleased with his success, he also remembered that it had all started with the words of the king's wise adviser. So he decided to give him a gift of 100,000 gold coins. This was half his entire wealth. After making the proper arrangements, he met with the king's adviser and gave him the gift, along with his humble thanks.

Adviser was amazed and asked “How did you earn so much wealth to afford gift?” The man told him it had all started with the adviser's own words not so long ago. They had led him to a dead mouse, a hungry cat, sweet cakes, bunches of flowers, storm damaged tree branches, children in the park, the king's potter, a refreshment shop, grass for 500 horses, a golden ruby ring, good business contacts, and finally a large fortune.

Hearing all this, the royal adviser thought to himself, "It would not be good to lose the talents of such an energetic man. I too have much wealth, as well as my beloved only daughter. As this man is single, he deserves to marry her. Then he can inherit my wealth in addition to his own, and my daughter will be well cared for."

This all came to pass, and after the wise adviser died, the one who had followed his advice became the richest man in the city. The king appointed him to the adviser's position. Throughout his remaining life, he generously gave his money for the happiness and wellbeing of many people.

No Matter, How hard it is. Keep moving on

By : - Buddhi Chaudhary

                                                                               

Lemme !

Tell you a story that will help you to understand "why shouldn't you give up in Life and move on despite all the barricades and blockades come onto."

           There was a man in ancient India. He came to Buddha and ordained as a monk. After getting permission from the Buddha, he decided to spend his life as a wandering-mendicant and live the isolated life. Times went on. He couldn't get what he desired "Any spiritual achievements."

Disgusted with his own efforts. He came back to the town and decided to have normal-monks life. When the monks knew the facts. They started to comment him with different sorts of criticism. All those comments came to the presence of Buddha. Buddha asked the truths from the particular monk.

"Yes lord" a monk accepted

"How could you lose your efforts in this very an enthusiastic and energetic teaching (religion)?" Buddha asked "wasn't you a person who saved hundreds of merchants from the death in your past life?"

When the gathered monks asked "How?"

The Buddha narrated the story.

There was a rich merchant in ancient India. He had hundreds of carts. He used to sale goods from one city to another.

One day, when, they were walking through the huge deserts, the cart-leader fall into sleep and the carts remained in the same place. At the same time, they had finished their water. Human needs water rather than foods. Therefore, they stopped the carts and looked for the water. When the leader learned the place where could be water found. They started to dig it. The more, they dig, the much stone started to appear. All the carts men lost their efforts. They decided to stop digging and die the death of starvation. There was one man. He didn't lose his efforts. He kept digging and breaking all the stones.

After digging few feet down, he broke the huge stone. Water appeared. All the carts men drank happily and complete their journey safe fully till many hundreds year.

And that man was a monk who lost his effort in this life. The cart leader was the Buddha himself.

Think about it and never give up in life. In any cost.

How to simply be Happy?

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Two thousands five hundred fifty five years ago, Buddha was teaching ‘Happiness as the ultimate wealth that a person should be achieved in life’ “Santutthi Paraman Dhanam.” There are no use for collecting thousands or millions of money, gold and gems or store wealth full of houses, when it is not worth a penny to oneself and others. Instead brings unhappiness problems to the mind, life, and relationships. Put into the status of stresses, depressions and anxious. It is worth-full small rotten piece of clothes, hundred dollar and enough rice for the survival, if it is worth to oneself and others. 

I am not going to give boring advises that not to cling to the material things, material objects and other temporary happiness in this twenty first century, where there are full of competitions to be survive among the other rich and smart people and countries. Instead, advice you to go for the long term happiness and joys. What I want to tell is that to focus on simple happiness and joys, while doing big works and jobs too since, all those simple happiness and joys lead you to the big one. 

Bygone days, people were happier than present time. I think. Even though, the modern technologies and sciences had made easier life than ever before, people are more stressful, depressed and anxious in this competitive life, as results.

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In the past, we used to send man-messengers to inform the matters from one place to another. This days and ages, we have Mobile Phones. Facebook. Line. Watsapp and Viber etc. to acknowledge the matters quickly. The outcome of this technological development is, life being easier than before. We can send the matters to another world within a second. Communicate with each other face to face. Easy Life.

The problems are, we are more stressful. Depressed. Anxious than ever before. Our relationship is not remaining longer. Once a couple promised each other to live and die together, next day morning, could be see the middle finger raised-up. Quarrel with each other. Broken hearts. Etc.

 “How to be Happy?” “What should we do to live happily?” Where should we go to feel good? These are the common questions that all the humanity asking while, living in this very busy and competitive world. 

There are hundreds and thousands of audio books and books have been written concerning the Happiness and way to live happily. Therefore, I am not going to write the same thoughts, they had written. I am not going to explain any religious facts to live happily too but, I will give simple advises that will benefits to have simple and small happiness and joys in life. 

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The first and foremost advices that I will give you is “Put your damn phone down” and go to the reading table, isolated places or in your room and read few hours some books, talk to other human beings whom you like and love so much. Don’t play Facebook, SnpaChat, Twitter, Watsapp and YouTube long times, instead go to talk to your parents, kids, and children. If you live far from them, please, do pick up the phone and call them. Call your parents. Grandparents. Ask their situations. Feelings, whether, they are feeling good. Happy. Joyous etc. or, go outside. Somewhere, places, that you won’t take pictures to post on your social Medias because, the likes. Sharing. Comments in social media really means nothing. It’s mean something but depends on your jobs and works that you are on to because, it is the age of Social Medias.

 I don’t say not to use Social Medias. Facebook. Twitter. Snap chat. YouTube. Too much. You can use it. You can post pictures because, it has some good perspectives as well as bad. It is we should know the facts and use it properly. We should know the things, we are doing on it.

There are times, we lose our happiness, little joyous and relationship because of our own misuses the social medias. In this case, social Medias have nothing to do with it. It is, we must be careful to use it properly. When we use it improperly, then, we will lose happiness and joys that we have achieve in life through good relationship with parents and children, husband and wife and also the relatives.  

Clinging too much in social Medias makes you stressful. Depressed. Anxious. Therefore, limit the using times. Go to read some books. Be with liked and loved one. Talk to parents. Relatives and be adventurous.

These things will always make you happy. Joyful and contented.

Be simple. Be contented. Be positive.